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Where do you start?
Once we got engaged, we realized the expectation was we would have answers about the upcoming wedding. The reality was that we were both excited about the next chapter… without really having ever thought about the event itself. Here’s how we approached it, and made it not actually a terrible experience along the way.
1.
We picked 3 things that were important to us, things we cared about.
make it authentic to us
food
photography
The first helped create the a clear way to make our decisions on decoration & venue, and the other two were the items we felt good about spending money on. Everything else we committed to spending minimal time worrying about & not let ourselves get upsold on.
2.
I spent copious amounts of time perusing blogs and wedding site run downs, and am forever grateful to other wedding-aficionados that generously shared what they’d learned while planning their nuptials. It also helped get over the initial shock of what event planning in NYC costs. This enabled me to create an outline of it all:
What you’d spend $$ on (& therefore have to make a decision about)
When decisions needed to be made (who knew venues needed to be booked a year in advance?)
What questions to ask of potential vendors, to compare / contrast easily
The document also became the place where we jotted down ideas as they came to us - this lessened the pressure / sense of being overwhelmed at all the decisions. And it prevented us from retreading already-decided upon ground.
3.
As a visual person 🙋🏻♀️- laying out the timeline of the day helped us imagine the various moments we were designing. We could celebrate when we checked off items and anticipate the joy we’d have with family & friends. I chose specific small parts that felt within my wheel house to get craftsy. For a closer look at the fun I had making our website, Japanese foam clay wedding cake toppers , lasercut wood table numbers and more, check out my other post on it here.
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